Allow me to Reintroduce Myself
My name is Monique Williamson. I decided to start this blog because honestly, I wasn’t living the life I wanted. I wake up some days hating the idea of going to work. The truth is I don’t really hate my job. I just know it isn’t for me, it doesn’t allow me the freedom I need to be truly happy. I wanted to create a life that I always imagined for myself. Eventually, I realized no one was going to create it for me so I had to start working on it myself. So let me catch you up on my story.
The beginning of 2014 was when I started my quarter-life crisis. I had a sinking feeling that I was making the wrong choice. I was just about to graduate from grad school with my Master’s in Marriage and Family Therapy (MFT) and had been accepted into two MFT Ph.D. programs. In the back of my mind, there was a small voice that whispered I wasn’t going to be happy. I didn’t know it then but I was following the plan that I had set for myself years prior. Before I left for my Ph.D. program I started applying for jobs, I had already accepted but I knew that if I got a job I would take it. I did end up getting a job but not until I was halfway through the first year of my doctorate. I worked full-time and went to school full-time (I do not recommend it, it was horrible). I dropped out of my doctorate after the first year, quit my job after the first year and moved to California to start a software development program. If you’re thinking, hold up that doesn’t make any sense. You would be completely right, it didn’t.
At this point in my life, the voice was still whispering I wasn’t happy. It was right but unfortunately, I interpreted it wrong. I believed I wasn’t happy because I was struggling financially and I wanted to be able to afford a better life. I had learned two major things about myself from working at my first job. 1) A $35,000 salary was not what I wanted for my life by a long shot and 2) working in the same place every day would kill my wanderlust. To me, the salary and job title had meant freedom. Freedom to travel wherever I wanted and freedom from worries about financial stability. So I broke one of my own values. I made a choice solely for money. I was looking for careers and tech seemed like a good idea. You could go to a boot camp, learn a skill for three months, and then get a job paying $80,000. Easy peasy right? Wrong! I hated it and even worse I wasn’t good at it. I graduated but I knew before I graduated that I would never get a job in tech. To try and salvage the money that I put into the program and moving to California I decided to do something that was close to coding but also a mix of psychology which was user experience design. I liked that better than coding but it still wasn’t the right fit for me.
By this time I moved back home into my dad’s house and promptly fell into a serious depression. During this time I met the love of my life, I am forever thankful for the struggle that brought him to me. I had no clue what I wanted to do with my life. What I did know was I couldn’t be depressed and unemployed forever so back into the arms of therapy I went. After trying I don’t know how many careers ideas for various amounts of time I finally decided to get help with clarity. I took the Welltodo Work in Wellness course. Blessedly, the voice in the back of my head was finally supportive of my choices. I was able to focus more on my needs, values, and what I wanted in life.
So here I am five years later and finally, I can say I’m completely out of my quarter life crisis. I never thought I would believe it but it was probably the best thing that happened to me. It made me realize I’m not willing to settle for a life that makes me content. I want a life that makes me thrilled, excited, committed and loved. I’m taking the leap to begin working for myself. I want to build my own dreams into reality and help others do the same.
Peace and Blessings,